Encouragemt

1. Truth is good but some people cannot handle the truth.

You don’t have to pour out everything all at once … not everyone can absorb and appreciate everything all at one go. Sometimes you have to let it flow little by little. Just like when you are schooling you don’t expect the teacher to teach everything all at once rite … what if he/she do that? You will be put off rite, you will think wow this subject chim arh sianz … don’t you find it similar to knowing someone? Both you guys are learning about each other but then you begin to pour everything out more and more unknowingly … this might put the person off … there is no wrong in doing that in being truthful in being honest and in wanting to let her understand you better … but you also need to know everyone every human reacts differently.


2. It’s not the content but the way the content is being delivered that counts as well.

Remember how you got rejected so to speak … its not the rejection that hurts but the manner in which it was delivered to you that leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Similarly your response to the post in this topic contains a lot of information about you but the way it is delivered leaves a bad taste in people’s mouth. Like what some podders have mentioned, the choice of words and how you form your sentence is important. I know you don’t have to please everyone, don’t have to impress anyone but you also don’t want to give people the wrong impression and worst still a bad impression of you rite. We don’t live alone in this world so you can’t totally ignore what others think of you. If you want people to have the impression that you are ok with whatever comments and views they give then show it. “The heart of the wise teaches his mouth and adds learning to his lips”


3. Learn how to hold your peace.

It’s good to uphold your principles and defend what is right but sometimes it is better to hold you peace. Because people comes from all walks of life with all sorts of views about things it is very difficult to make them see your point of view no matter how hard you try no matter how good your speech is no matter how good your writing is. Learn to hold your peace bro.“He who is devoid of wisdom despises his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his peace”“Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from trouble”


4. Learn to accept other people’s view even if they are wrong.

Accepting doesn’t mean you have to do anything about it. If it isn’t right then smile and say thank you, point noted (don’t get me wrong here, I’m not saying you have to be sarcastic, just be polite and friendly that’s all). You don’t have to rebuke them or go to great length to correct them because not everyone can accept the truth (see my first point). Learn to take it easy bro. Learn to accept other people’s view even if they are wrong. Learn to take people’s opinion with a pinch of salt sometimes.“A scoffer seeks wisdom and does not find it, but knowledge is easy for him who understands”5. Sometimes it’s better to talk less and listen more.I have limited dating experience but I have learn that when it comes to girl, a lot of times it is better to talk less and listen more to them. If they want you to speak if they want your opinion, they will confirm let you know. Sometimes it is better for them to ask before you reveal. You don’t want to be an open book rite. Similar sometimes it is better to talk less and listen to what others have to say.

Source: Toshi