True Love

It is natural for us to fall in love as it is for de flowers to bloom in spring.

And yet, the results of love are many and varied.

While everyone is free to fall in love or be attracted to someone and no one has the right to meddle in your private affairs, I fee it is also important not to lose sight of pursuing your own personal development. There are of course no rules on love and marriage, and no one has the right to restrict you in any way. But I absolutely hate to see people getting involved in frivolous relationships and suffering and agonizing over them when they should be brilliant and happy.

When women act with dignity in relationships, problems can be avoided. Women I feel, should not have an easy-going, careless attitude concerning love, as this may lead to regrets and suffering.

While I am blogging this with young ladies particularly in mind, much of what I am saying also applies to the guys.

To me, love should be a force that helps us expand our lives and bring out our potential with fresh vitality. This is the ideal, but all few often people lose all objectivity when they fall in love.

The question is "Does this person inspires you to work harder or distract you from what you to do? Does their presence make you make you more determined to devote great energies to your activities, to be a better person? Do they inspire you to realize your future goals and work towards them? Or is that person your central focus, overshadowing everything else?

If you find that you are neglecting things you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you are in, then buddy, I would guess that you might be on the wrong path. A healthy relationship, in my humble opinion, is one which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals, while sharing each other’s hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoration and hope.

Rather than becoming so love-struck that you create a world in only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your loved one that you respect and admire, and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself. I remember Antoine de Saint-Exupery, the author of The Little Prince, once wrote, “Love is not two people gazing at each other but two people looking ahead together in the same direction.”

Of course much of daily life tends to be ordinary and unexciting. Making steady efforts to improve ourselves can be trying. And then when you fall in love, life seems filled with drama and excitement and you feel like the leading character in a book. But if you lose yourself in love just because you are bored, and veer from your path in life then love is nothing more than escapism. But sad to say many people believe that this kind of love is the be-all and end-all, deluding themselves that as long as they are in love, nothing else matters.

Even if you try to use love as an escape, the euphoria is unlikely to last for long. If anything, you may only find yourself with more problems along with a great deal of pain and sadness. However much you may try, you can never run away from yourself. If you remain weak inside suffering will only follow you wherever you go. You will never find happiness it you do not change yourself from within.

Happiness is not something that anyone else, even a lover can give you. You have to achieve it by yourself and the only say to do so is by developing your own character and capacity as a human being by fully maximizing your potential. If you sacrifice your own growth and talent for love, you absolutely will not find happiness.

Women who are often very vulnerable to persuasion by guys. They can sometimes act as if they are stunned and lose their ability to make calm rational decisions. Since the girls are the ones who must often get hurt they have every right to assert their dignity and look after their own welfare.

it is precisely for this reason that I feel it is important for women to develop two things, inner strength and self respect. I feel that it is demeaning to be constantly seeking approval if you find yourself in a relationship where you are not treated the way your heart tells you that you should be. I hope you will have the courage and dignity to decide that you are better off running the risk of being alone for the time being rather than enduring on an unhappy relationship.

Lastly, Real love is not two people clinging to each other, it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality A shallow person will only have shallow relationships. If you want to experience real love, it is important first to develop a strong self identity. True love is not about doing whatever the other person wants you to do or pretending that you are not. Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people.