90/10

90/10 Rules for all your happiness, prosperity and longeivity

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Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The
result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials,
problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days
follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly
happening.

Theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry
consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not
enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost.
Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not
be discouraged.

You can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will
change your life!

What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop
the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which
throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have
no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the
other 90%! How?
By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!

Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She
breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse
and criticize them for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table.
A short
verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must
leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit. After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you
arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying
good-bye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems
to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive
home you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter.

Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How
you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say
"It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You
come back down in time look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.
You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes
early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day
you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both
ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over
10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret. If someone says something
negative about you, do not be sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on
glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React
properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in
losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your
temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel
fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and
bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry
about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will
work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why
take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over
what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger,
etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results.