of Chemistry & Compatiblity

I've been wanting to write this entry for quite awhile.

It has dawned upon me that recent ordeals around me has kept me wondering;
How do guys keep a lookout for suitable candidates as dates, or even further, girlfriends?
Well, MOST(I say most ok) guys generally "whack" ANY girl that comes into their lives (be it mary, lucy or jane)

Criteria? Looks, looks & more looks.

It's DNA wired. Aces of Symmetry, to pass off healthy offsprings and spread seed far & wide.
Well, you see, there's de problem. Most guys forgot to install filtering systems.
I'm not talking about looks here now.

It's not rocket science to tell apart from Abigail from Fiona Xie & whom you would choose,
I'm talking about Compatibility here.

"There's always someone better for you out there. But in love, it isn't about finding someone better, it's finding someone whom is compatible, to you."

The problem with most guys is they fail to identify what's compatible and what's not?
And to be able to do so, one has know himself, but he can know what he seeks.

Most guys jumps into de whirlpool of a relationship, only to find out de ugly truth after 2 years. "O i can't stand her." "If i would have known." etcetra.
And girls, don't be laughing away. You're half as guilty to not having your eyes when picking suitors. Not every man that sits on a white horse is a knight.

He could be Tripitaka (Tang San Zhang) for all you know.


How to know if you're compatible with him/her?

Sigmund Freud, Founding father of Psychoanalysis, shared that by communicating, you can actually solve de person's problem. It was much unheard back in his days.
Likewise for compatibility. Without communication, one cannot understand other's thoughts, thinking, processes, feelings.

Communications, is de only key.
Chemistry, on de other hand, works when 2 person spend time together. face to face. not through msn, or your maple char standing beside each other, but flesh and blood, beside.
Chemistry is developed, with de formulae of time, and of cos, communcation. Only den we can know if de result is successful.



In conclusion, not every key fits every lock. But we can look beyond what we seek, we won't waste our youth in short term happiness.